Key points
1A godly man prioritizes his wife above his achievements
Pastor Daniel notes that of the thousand-plus songs Solomon wrote, God preserved the one about his wife flourishing under his leadership, not his wealth or conquests. He warns men are tempted to find meaning in the marketplace and 'win in the boardrooms and lose in the living room,' urging that the greatest hit of a man's life should be his family.
2A godly man values a clean life and a good name above his physique
Working through the imagery of precious oil in Song of Songs 1:3, he explains that oil had to be purified from impurities, just as our character is purified not by our own effort but by bending the knee to Jesus and undergoing sanctification. He tells men that Christ-like character matters more than anything else, including how they look.
3A godly man makes his wife his standard of beauty
He walks through the wife's insecurity about her tanned skin in Song of Songs 1:5-10 and shows how Solomon responds by affirming her rather than confirming her fears. He says a godly man trains himself, against his natural wiring, to have eyes for one woman and to create security for her inside the relationship, since attraction can start a marriage but character is what sustains it.
beauty may attract but character is what remains
A story from life
Pastor Daniel shares that after nearly 20 years of marriage he is more physically attracted to his wife today than ever, describing how he has trained himself to make her his standard of beauty.
4A godly man is financially responsible for his home
Reading the wife's excitement over their new house in Song of Songs 1:16-17, he argues men carry the curse of laboring to provide and must shoulder that financial burden rather than shifting it onto their wives. He cites Paul's warning that those who won't provide for their household have denied the faith and are worse than unbelievers, and gives four practical keys to succeed in the marketplace: show up on time, work hard, respect authority, do what you say.
5A godly man practices sexual restraint
He highlights the refrain Solomon repeats three times, not to awaken love until the time is right, as the last principle in the playbook. He explains that culture says to chase every feeling, but a godly man trains himself toward restraint because he is led by faith and submission to the Spirit, not by feelings.
men who avoid responsibility, they eventually resent men who embrace it
Your words will create the worlds that the people closest to you will live in
Illustration
Joshua's final sermon to Israel — 'As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord' — cited as a model of a man making a public, prophetic declaration of faith for his family.
I think the greatest threat facing culture today is a lack of biblical masculinity
when men get better, our homes get better. When men get better, our cities get better
when a man decides to pursue godliness, everybody connected to him flourishes
A story from life
Pastor Daniel shares a photo of his young son Braden dressed as Captain America at Chick-fil-A to illustrate the difference between boyhood and manhood behavior.
Illustration
A quote from liberal feminist sociologist Camille Paglia warning that when an educated culture denigrates masculinity, women will be left with boys.
Application
Pastor Daniel frames the charge as a decision every man can make right now to stop stumbling and start becoming a godly man.
Prioritize your wife above your achievements
Make sure your family, not your business or platform, is the thing people say flourished under your leadership.
Pursue Christ-like character over physique
Run harder after a clean life and good name than after how you look, trusting Jesus to remove your impurities as you submit to Him.
Make your wife your standard of beauty
Train your eyes for one woman and speak affirmation over her, creating security instead of confirming her insecurities.
Step into financial responsibility for your home
Show up on time, work hard, respect authority, and do what you say, so your wife isn't carrying a burden she wasn't built to carry.
Practice sexual restraint
Whether single or married, train yourself not to awaken love before its time rather than being led purely by feelings.
Bend the knee to Jesus and start over
Whatever your past looks like, submit your life to Jesus this morning as the starting point for becoming a godly man.
Take it into your week
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